Be a Wolf, Not a Lion: Lessons for True Alpha Males and the Women Who Desire Them

“The main characteristic of an alpha male wolf is a quiet confidence, quiet self-assurance. You know what you need to do; you know what’s best for your pack. You lead by example. You’re very comfortable with that. You have a calming effect”

Rick Mcintyre

This article is a deviation from my usual eat clean, train dirty articles. I wrestled with whether I should post it, but I felt so compelled and moved by this topic that I decided to go for it. I have always had a deep respect, admiration and attraction for what society considers to be an alpha male. A true man’s man. A strong protector and provider.  A reliable man whose presence demands respect. Growing up, both my paternal and maternal grandfathers and my father set the tone for the type of man I aspired to be with.

But over the years, I ended up with the opposite of alpha males; the weak minded, complaining, shirking from personal responsibility type of man. The worst type of man. I decided to end the cycle of having relationships with beta males rife with the karmic energy of past life connections where deep healing  was necessary. I have been fortunate to manifest a relationship with my kindred spirit, and he is a true alpha male in every sense of the word. He has said to me on numerous occasions, I am not like a lion. I am a wolf. A wolf? I have never heard a man refer to himself as a wolf. Doesn’t he want to be a lion instead? The proverbial King of the Jungle? It’s always been my understanding that wolves are dangerous, aggressive and they travel alone (the lone wolf narrative).

Um, did I really want a wolf? I didn’t think so, but when I saw this meme on Instagram, I sat down to do some research on the characteristics of male wolves and lions

Now, I have a new- found respect for the misunderstood wolf species. And yes, I want the wolf! All women should want the wolf and all men should want to be the wolf! Let’s go through the characteristics of male wolves and lions, and I guarantee after reading you too will have a greater appreciation for the wolf species.

The Male Wolf

Male wolves are monogamous and mate with one female wolf for life. I think that’s worth repeating. Male wolves are monogamous and mate with one female wolf for life. The pack he leads? It’s his family, consisting of his mate, pups and maybe a sibling or other extended family member. The wolf is fiercely loyal and dedicated to his pack. He may hunt alone or with his pack. Afterwards he may go rest while they eat. He is also ready to defend his family from any outside threat, even if it means sacrificing his own life. This is where the aggressive and savage qualities of the male wolf is evident. But with his pups? He loves to wrestle with them and gets a kick out of letting them win. The male wolf even goes out of his way to tend to the runts of the pack. He and his mate care for the pups until they are a year old and they go off to mate and form their own pack. When the male wolf howls? It is to assemble his mate and pups after hunting, to warn them of danger or to locate them after a storm.


The Male lion

Dominate male lions will mate with multiple lionesses. They are not monogamous. Also, it is the lioness who approaches the male of their choosing, not the other way around. Male lions do not normally nurture their cubs, and if threatened by them they may even kill them. The male cubs are ousted from the pride by the dominant male at 2 years old. Many of them will die within the first few weeks because they are inexperienced hunters. The females do most of the hunting, although the male will help take down larger prey. The male lion will eat first, while the females and cubs wait their turn. Many cubs do not survive because when it is their turn to eat, most of the prey is gone. The main goal of the male lion is to find a pride of females, take over and defend that territory from other male lions who will come and seek to do the same thing he has previously done.

lion kill

Lion or wolf?

I think the evidence is clear, the wolf is where it’s at. Men should choose the wolf as their animal totem instead of the lion, and ladies should only accept a mate who has alpha male wolf traits.

 “Yes, alpha males wolves are wild, aggressive and savage. But they’re also protective, nurturing, and tender. So, if you want to truly become alpha like a wolf, you’ll need to do more than become a beast in the gym and strive to overcome your competitors. You’ll also need to become a committed and dedicated family man- a loving and protective father”

Now, when my “ole man” refers to himself as a wolf, I’m so thankful he doesn’t want to be King of the Jungle.

Kathleen, “The Nutritional Truth Teller” is a Certified Holistic Nutritionst, Certified Nutrition and Wellness Consultant and a Certified Vaginal Steam Facilitator. She is the owner of Beauty In A Barbell Nutrition, whose sole mission is to optimize the physical, mental, and spiritual health of the Black community through African Holistic Health and Black Radicalism. She carries with her the ancestral knowledge and wisdom of the medicine men, women, healers and warriors she lovingly calls her ancestors.