“It’s not a matter of letting go- you would if you could. Instead of ‘let it go’ we should probably say ‘let it be’”
I saw this quote in a meme on Instagram and it struck a chord so deep within in me that it inspired this blog article. This message was just what I needed as I’m engaged in yet another cycle of healing. You see, healing occurs in a series of emotional and spiritual events that repeat themselves. There are layers upon layers that need to be revealed, confronted and dealt with. For many of us, there is not just one layer of pain, hurt, resentment, bitterness and anger, but there are many and the root(s) of our pain can run deep. I find myself facing the same issues, but each time it is a layer that was previously covered that has now come to the surface. Just when I think I have overcome; BOOM, here comes that anger, resentment and bitterness creeping right back up and I think to myself, “how much more is there”? I brace myself to do the hard healing work necessary to finally be the “me” I intrinsically am, the best version of myself without the pain, the hurt and the struggle. Self-love motivates me and pushes me beyond what I think I am capable of handling.
So here I am again, looking at this layer of my issues dead in the face, ready to battle and fight to the bitter end so that I can let it go and move on. But suddenly I realize I can’t fight through this one. I can’t forgive this one and I can’t let it go. So, what do I do? I will just let it be. I can’t force myself or convince myself to figure out the how or the why. Instead, I am going to let it be. By letting it be I am releasing and surrendering this layer of my pain to the universe for transmutation. I am going to let the hurt, the betrayal, and the loss of my childhood innocence simply be. I am going to let those who hurt me be. I am going to let the resentment I feel for the apologies I will never receive be. This layer, I cannot let it go. So, I must let it be.
When I decided within myself to let it be, I felt a peace and a calm. I cannot change the past and I certainly cannot change the people in my life who played such an integral part of my past. I can’t let the frustration of what I think someone should do or be keep me from the thing I desire most; my true self. Healing is hard work and we shouldn’t make it harder for ourselves by embracing an unrealistic urgency to forgive, let go and move on. Sure, in a perfect world that works but my world isn’t perfect, its real. And the real is, since I cannot let go, I will just let it be. There’s a quote that says, “I sat with my anger long enough, until she told me her real name was grief”. Sit with it. Sit with this layer of pain, let it be and then leave it there. You might find that when you come back, it has evaporated like water. When water evaporates the molecules move and vibrate so quickly that they escape into the atmosphere
“Let it be” is an attitude, a mindset and a perspective that allows you to release and surrender. Healing comes with the release of needing to let it go and instead learning to let it be. The powerful energy of surrendering and releasing moves and vibrates that pain, anger, shame and resentment so quickly that it escapes into the atmosphere ending yet another cycle of healing. A renewal begins when you say to yourself, “let it be”.
Kathleen Richardson is a Certified Holistic Nutritionist and Wellness Consultant. She focuses on the body, mind, spirit connection of self healing and self love through nutrition, exercise and “heart work”.